You’re going to miss this!

I am a huge American Country Music fan (yes, I can hear many of you groan at that admission!).

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In fact, one of my best ever moments, to date, was meeting Brad Paisley –  actually getting to meet him in person, talk to him and get my photo taken with him! I was so excited on the train to Dublin that Gavin was actually a little miffed – apparently I had NEVER shown that level of enthusiasm (even when we got engaged!). His mood did not improve when I dragged him around Temple Bar, Dublin to find a shop that sold a hair comb – I had forgotten to put one in my bag and was determined to look my very best for the special moment!  Anyway, here’s the proof that it did really happen…

Thanks for indulging me!

It will come as no surprise to you that 95% of my iTunes playlist is country music. This week I have been listening to all my old songs and came across one that made me think. It’s called “You’re Gonna Miss This” by Trace Adkins.  (Click to listen – if you dare!!)


For those of you who can’t cope with the slide guitars, I’ll share some of the lyrics with you –

“You’re gonna miss this, you’re gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast. These are some good times, so take a good look around – you may not know it now, but you’re gonna miss this”.

The song tells the story of a girl who is always in a hurry to move on from where she’s at – to grow up; leave school; learn to drive; get married; have babies etc etc. The above lyrics are the chorus and her Dad’s word to encourage her to enjoy the point of life that she’s currently at.

The words have really stayed with me because for the last few weeks I have heard myself say (or complain)  – “I wish this pregnancy would hurry up and the Baby would just arrive”. Partly, because I am anxious to know that all is okay and he is safe and healthy, but, being honest, I can’t blame it all on that. In some ways, I am just being impatient. I want to move forward from where I am, at my own pace.

As I thought more about it, I realised that I do this all the time – I am always looking ahead to see what’s coming next and most of the time I am all to keen to get there before I need to. I’ve started to wonder what I’ve missed out on enjoying, simply because I cannot content myself with what’s in the immediate. Not that I think there is anything wrong with having plans, hopes and dreams for the future, but do I ever really allow myself to sit back for a moment, to take stock of where I am and in the process just be thankful?

The Bible says there is a “Season for everything”…

“For everything there is a season,
    a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
    A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
    A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
    A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
    A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
    A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
    A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
    A time for war and a time for peace.”

Ecclesiastes 3 : 1-8

Seems to me, no matter what “season” of life I am in, I am always on the look out for the next. So I’ve been asking myself – what do I miss learning, experiencing or discovering, because I am all too focused on the next thing to notice what’s really happening around me? What might God want to use me for, teach me or develop in me during each season, that I ignore with my determination to move forward? Do I ‘prolong’ some of the seasons I am in, simply because I refuse to be patient with what is right in front of me?

As I reflect on some of the major seasons of my life, over the past 10 years, I trace the common thread of impatience –  the need to at least know what’s coming next, if not to begin it already. I wonder, during those times, what God would have pointed out to me, if I had given him the chance? When would He have said to me, as the song does, “Lindsay, you’re going to miss this” ?

There are lots of exciting things to come with having a baby but I am trying to encourage myself not to rush these next few weeks away simply because of impatience. I am pretty sure in 4 or 5 weeks time (when we are holding our little boy) I am going to look back and think about all the things I miss –  being able to sleep in late, or simply sleep; life just being ‘the two of us’; my timetable being my own; going wherever we want without tons of stuff; sitting down to watch a movie; eating takeaway without fear of feeds or nappy changes, and probably lots more besides!

I have no idea what “season” of life you are in but if, like me, you are all to keen for it to end may I ask you – “what is it you are going to miss?”. Is there anything to be thankful for; to pause and appreciate; to learn or to develop; to cherish and hold onto before everything, once again, changes and you are back on the treadmill of the ‘next new thing’?

With that said, I do realise that there may be some of you reading who are going through very difficult days. My question might seem insensitive and completely out of touch with your reality. I do not mean to minimise where or how you are struggling or your legitimate desire to see these days pass. I would say, however, that these days are not the easiest for me or for us – sometimes my cry to move forward comes out of desperation to know that all is going to be okay with our Baby Boy. And yet, even in those times, I wonder if it’s still possible to look for things that I can be thankful for or be sure not to miss?

“You’re gonna miss this, you’re gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast. These are some good times, so take a good look around – you may not know it now, but you’re gonna miss this”.