I want to say a massive thank you to all of you who have got in touch with me via Facebook, email or mobile about my last post.
I was really nervous about the response I might get, because I was honest – but it has been fantastic! Thank you – so much support, so many kind words and tons of encouragement have meant that taking the step to ‘speak up’ was the right thing to do.
Many of you have also contacted me, sharing your own personal stories with food issues and the heartache and difficulties you face because of them. Thank you for being so brave and trusting me with all that you have.
In responding to each of you individually, I have wished that I had more answers to give, but I don’t. Battles with food/weight/control/identity are often long and full of ups and downs, highs and lows. I have yet to meet anyone who has ‘got it all sorted’ and moreover ‘sorted’ it quickly.
Perhaps the two greatest enemies that we face are silence and solitude. It’s all too easy to say nothing about what’s really going on, to share with no-one and to keep silent about where and how we are struggling. I have learned that opening up to someone (or even a couple of trusted friends, family members or a Professional) is priceless. Please, if you haven’t taken that step yet, consider carefully doing so and doing it soon. Silence is not the only option. There is also nothing more lonely than coping by yourself and solitude makes the problem worse. If posting on my blog has reminded me of anything is that we are not alone. There are others who struggle in similar ways, or if they don’t, there are people in our lives who are more than willing to journey alongside us as we do. Coping alone can feel like the safer option, but it’s absolutely not. Solitude is not the only option. Both silence and solitude are two great enemies, but both are ones we can beat.
Laurie Halse Anderson, in her book Wintergirls says – “There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn’t matter anymore.”
I believe she’s right – there is no overnight switch to make it all better. It will take time and effort, but the small steps forward are worth the ‘easier day’, the ‘unexpected laugh’ and the ‘mirror that doesn’t matter anymore’.
Don’t give up!